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Could adoption be right for you? First4Adoption Shares Some Information You May Want To Consider

Gemma Gordon-Johnson, Head of national adoption information service, First4Adoption, shares some of the information you may want to consider.

Adoption is one of a range of alternatives that you may be considering if you cannot conceive and give birth to a child or have experienced miscarriages or secondary infertility.

Couples and single people who have fertility issues are faced with a number of possible options including: assisted conception (IVF and other fertility treatments), donor insemination or surrogacy, adoption, doing nothing and letting life take its course or deciding to remain child free.

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Each of these alternatives has its own pros and cons and I’d encourage anyone with fertility issues to take time and seek advice and counselling to work out the best way forward for themselves.
I do hope, however, that the following information will be helpful if you are exploring adoption due to fertility issues or you’re thinking of taking the next step to find out more about adoption.

It is advisable to take a break after your last fertility treatment or after a miscarriage because of the emotional impact of these experiences. Adoption agencies will often prefer that you wait at least 6 months before starting an adoption assessment.
Adoption is a great way to become a parent but is not a direct alternative to conception. It is important to take time to work through grieving and loss to feel emotionally ready to move on and devote your energies to adoption. If you are a couple you both need to feel ready for the adoption process.

There is no upper age limit for adoption. So don’t feel that you have to rush if you have tried fertility treatments without success. The adoption process nowadays is much faster than it used to be and you could be approved to adopt in as little as six months.

You don’t have to try fertility treatments first. Adoption can be a positive first choice if you are unable to conceive. Some people have moral or religious objections to assisted conception, some would rather avoid any unpleasant symptoms and side effects of treatment, some consider the prospects of success too slim, and some find their motivation to love and parent a child or children that need a family is stronger than the biological drive to produce a child that shares their genes.

All adoption agencies are likely to have experience of assessing people who are considering adoption due to infertility or difficulties conceiving. You can expect agencies to deal sensitively with your enquiries. When you are starting the adoption process with an adoption agency your social worker will want to understand your motivation to adopt and will also ask that you don’t attempt to conceive once you are being assessed to adopt.

You don’t have to be a couple. Adoption agencies in England have been approving single people to adopt children for many years, and this is the case no matter what your sexual orientation.

If you have undergone fertility treatment as a couple and are now considering adoption, you have already been through a lot together. Adoption agencies welcome couples whose relationships are resilient and have stood the test of time, and you may have learned a lot about dealing with stress and emotional challenges together which will stand you in good stead when you become parents.

If you have secondary infertility (unable to have a second or subsequent child) adoption can be a great way to increase or complete your family. How to prepare for this and the needs of your existing child or children will be an important part of the assessment.

Agencies will generally want the adopted child to be the youngest in the family by at least 2 years and preferably more. A reasonable age gap and giving each child space has been shown in research to be beneficial both to birth children in the family and the adopted child.

It is common for potential adopters who have fertility issues to want to adopt a baby as young as possible. It is alright to be honest about this if it is part of your motivation to adopt, but it also helps if you have a realistic idea about the children who need adoptive families. Most children adopted are between 12 months – 4 years old, and it is rare for a baby to be voluntarily relinquished at birth.

All adopted children will need lots of love, nurture, time and attention from their new parent/s. Ask adoption agencies about the age range of children for whom they are looking for parents and consider keeping an open mind, as many adopters find their views change during the assessment process.
I hope this information has helped answer some questions you may have.

If you feel ready to find out more please visit our website or call 0300 222 0022 and speak, in confidence, with one of our advisers.

Editorial Team
Editorial Team
Fertility Road aims to inform and inspire in a way that is direct, honest and empathetic, whilst breaking down the science by being written by top experts from the fertility field.

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