Connect with us

Hi, what are you looking for?

Fertility Road Magazine

Fertility 360

Misconceptions About Solo Motherhood

Misconceptions About Solo Motherhood
Misconceptions About Solo Motherhood

Nowadays there is an increasing amount of women who choose to become solo mothers. However, there are still a lot of public misconceptions when it comes to this topic and specifically in regard to why women choose to have and raise children by themselves. In this article, we share expert knowledge from Professor Susan Golombok from The University of Cambridge and a story from one solo mother, in order to shed some light on some of these preconceived misconceptions.

The families are Very Well Functioning

A common misconception that people have is that the well-being of a child being brought up by a solo mother is not as good as the well-being of a child being brought up by two parents. Professor Susan Golombok, studies solo mothers by choice at the Center of Family Research at Cambridge, where she has investigated the quality of parenting that solo mothers offer their children. In a video interview with Cryos International Sperm & Egg Bank Golombok stated, “we found that actually these families are very well functioning. The mothers and the children have a really good relationship with each other”.

Golombok further explains that solo mothers often feel stressed about parenting – many times this is because they have to juggle too many roles at once. With this being said the mothers are doing very well raising their children and they are successful in building close ties to them.

Delaying childbirth is not always Plan A

There is a common misconception that women are delaying childbirth because they want to advance their careers, but this is not always the case. “(…) studies have shown that it actually has more to do with their partners not being able to or willing to commit to having children” Golombok explains.

Advertisement. Scroll to continue reading.

Men often think that they have their entire life to have children. However, other studies have shown that the male biological clock is ticking almost as fast as the female clock and furthermore that their sperm quality is decreasing with age. So, unless there is a change in behaviour in men, the rise in solo mothers will likely continue to increase.

Watch the video interview with Susan Golombok here.

A Story From a Solo Mother: “Plan B was not so bad after all”.

On Cryos’ blog you can read about a solo mother and how this was never her Plan A.
After many years of struggling to get pregnant together with her boyfriend, she found out that one of her tubes was damaged and that she would need help in order to get pregnant. The relationship with her boyfriend did not last and suddenly she had to think of an alternative way of becoming a mother. “There I was, 38 years old and single”. “I really needed to get myself together and think of a plan B.”

After carefully considering all of her possibilities, she found Cryos, and later fell pregnant and gave birth to a little boy. Amidst all of her happiness the stress of parenthood appeared in her mind and she began to wonder if she had made the right decision by doing it alone. “I got a poster with the words ‘The other mums do not know the rules either’. It was nice to be reminded of that from time to time.”

Advertisement. Scroll to continue reading.

Read the entire personal story about the Solo Mum by Choice on Cryos blog or other personals stories from solo mums.

Avatar for Editorial Team
Written By

I am the Co-Founder of Fertility Road and head up the editorial team and find time to write some of the content for our website.. 

Click to comment

You must be logged in to post a comment Login

Leave a Reply