The Fat Girl’s Guide to Getting Pregnant

Nicola Salmon is a gentle warrior for fertility freedom and a proud, fat feminist. Her work as a fertility coach, acupuncturist and naturopath ideally places her to help women in reclaiming their health and fertility.

Nicola Salmon is a gentle warrior for fertility freedom and a proud, fat feminist. Her work as a fertility coach, acupuncturist and naturopath ideally places her to help women in reclaiming their health and fertility.
Here is an abridged version of Nicola’s honest and practical Guide to Getting Pregnant.
I’m sure you’ve been told time and time again that you need to lose weight in order to get pregnant. It’s been drummed into you since you were little that you need to be slim and pretty to get what you want in life – the perfect husband, the perfect career and the perfect family. The problem is that it’s a load of crap and this idea that you need to be something other than you are right now is doing more harm than good.
If you think you need to lose weight to get pregnant, it may become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It also fuels the negative relationship you already have with your body. You’ve been trying to lose weight your whole life so how the hell is it going to be any easier now? And if you’ve been trying to lose weight but can’t? Does that mean that you are a terrible person because you can’t do this “simple” thing to get the most important thing in the world to you? I’m going to share with you three steps you can take to begin to unravel the f**d up way we see our fat bodies when we are trying to get pregnant.

Throw Away The Scales

Drastic, I know. And I know exactly what you’re thinking….. “If I don’t weigh myself then my weight is just going to get out of control” The scale is not your friend. This one number dictates whether you have a good day or a bad day and that is not ok. You are more than a number. Your worth is not measured in kg or stone. Right now, at exactly this weight (not in a couple of pounds!) you are worthy of becoming a mother. We’ve been taught that somehow the scales can tell us if we’ve been a good girl or a bad girl, if we need to punish our body with exercise or if we can treat ourselves to a cake. You don’t need to know how much you weigh to be happy and healthy. You aren’t going to balloon to the size of a house if you aren’t checking that number daily. If this idea scares you, start where you are. Try not weighing yourself for a week or a month.

The how

Throw the scales away. I mean literally. I smashed my scales on the ground and never looked back

Nourish Not Punish

For so much of my life, I used food and exercise as a punishment for being fat. I ate food that was restrictive (dieting 101) or binge ate a whole tub of Ben and Jerry’s. Each being a punishment of some form. I never ate what I wanted to when I was physically hungry. Anytime that I tried to exercise, it was from a place of punishing my body for the food I’d eaten or the fat that had accumulated around my middle. Let’s just say it was all punishing and no nourishing for a long time and I hated my body with a passion. It all changed when I changed my intention around my actions. I now choose the food and movement that will nourish my body and I make a conscious choice that I’m taking care of my body with each decision I make. Do I make the perfect choices every time? No! But part of nourishing myself is being kind to myself when things aren’t perfect.
The how

Look After Your Mental Health

Your mental health is an important and often overlooked aspect to this journey. When you are constantly beating yourself up about your weight, it’s easy to fall into a negative and stressful spiral, believing that you will never become a mother and that it’s all your fault. Spending a little time everyday focusing on your thoughts, feelings and beliefs is a really useful way to being to give your mind the attention it deserves.
Mental health is a huge topic so take baby steps and if you are struggling, please do seek support from a healthcare professional.

The how

Every time you notice yourself experiencing a negative thought, in your head say “STOP, that’s not useful” and try reversing it.
E.g. If you spotted the thought “Why does my tummy look so fat in these trousers? Say “STOP, that’s not useful. My tummy looks beautiful in these trousers”
It may feel impossible to catch these thoughts and you may not believe what you tell yourself, but we are building a new habit and the more you do this, the stronger this habit will become.
I HOPE THIS HELPS.
Love from Nicola x
More information on Nicola’s work can be found at www.nicolasalmon.co.uk